Self-Coaching Strategies: Decisions, Decisions

Our self-coaching blog series hit the pause button when the Coronavirus pandemic unfolded. We will be returning to these posts now, having realized the insights provided here are as relevant as ever. While we continue to move forward, we hope these posts provide value for approaching life at its most unpredictable.

From hitting the snooze button in the morning to determining what time to go to sleep at night, each day is full of decisions. The quality of our decisions directly relates to the quality of our lives. We sometimes fail to recognize the control we have over making decisions, instead allowing others to unduly influence them. In addition, we may harshly judge ourselves for our decisions. Over time, this can lead to feelings of depletion and add stress to already active lives.

Regaining control of decisions starts with considering yourself first. That’s worth saying again. Consider yourself first. Through the course of these self-coaching blog posts, I will be reinforcing the theme explaining this important mindset: when you prioritize caring for yourself, you create more opportunity to care for others.

To begin, we need to better understand our unique decision-making process and take ownership of it. Now is the time to get out your self-coaching journal (if you read my last self-coaching blog post on Boundaries, I introduced the idea of a self-coaching journal there). The next time you face a decision, any decision, find a few moments to walk through the following process.

First, understand what’s going on in your body.

How did I feel when this opportunity was presented to me? This is the physical way your body reacts to making this decision – heart racing, upset stomach, pure joy, etc.

Next, dig deeper to learn more.

What thoughts are going through my head as I consider my options? Your mind may run wild, so much so, that you feel overwhelmed and may not want to admit it. Do your best to understand what you are feeling and why.

Take a moment to consider yourself first.

If I felt completely free to make any decision I wanted, how would I proceed? Remove everyone else from the equation and decide for yourself. This may or may not be the final decision, but it is a critical part of the process to acknowledge your honest feelings and thoughts.

Finally, make the best decision you can using what you’ve learned.

What solution serves me best and is one I can genuinely commit to, even if it isn’t exactly what I want? Time to decide and act, recognizing there can be a tremendous learning opportunity no matter the outcome.

From determining when we feel safe to leave our homes to creating a plan for the upcoming school year, coronavirus introduced a new wave of decisions into our lives. This can prompt anxiety if we let these decisions overwhelm us. Take things one decision at a time while using the questions above to guide you.

Reflecting before making decisions is an important way you take care of you.

Enjoyed this post and want more? See the previous post from our Self-Coaching blog series: Boundaries.